Lying Hurts

Lying Hurts

At some point or the other in life everyone becomes the victim of lie. I am taking the liberty to assume that it affects all. You can ignore things for a while but you cannot get rid of the fact that you are being lied to.

My problem about being lied to is, most of the time i can see through those lies (especially if it is by friends and the closed ones). Sometimes it is funny when you know that the other person is lying and the person before you thinks he/she is successfully making a fool of you.

But most of the times it's not funny at all. It hurts, and it hurts pretty badly. If you've ever been lied to, you know how disheartening it can be. You can't help wondering as to why a friend would treat you so poorly. For a moment you even hate yourself for putting so much faith in him/ her. Your trust factor falls immediately into the negative part of the number line and you find it harder to even inch towards the origin again.

Your practical and wise self would tell you to leave them but you decide the other way round; you hang on. You hang on, not because you are a fool, but because you care for them. You know that by lying they are doing more harm to them than to you. You believe that with your truth and trust you can save them and win over their lies. You value relationship.

- I shall conquer untruth by truth. And in resisting untruth, I shall put up with all suffering.” ~Mahatma Gandhi

Lying destroys lairs

It destroys you with its simple harmonic nature. You are trapped in its vicious cycle, you keep going round and round in your self created spiral of lies which is very difficult to get free from. When you continue to lie, you are basically piling up the baggage of your lies on your back which you carry around everywhere you go.

Most of the time, we tell white lies to avoid hurting someone or to avoid conflict. Often these white lies backfire, as when we’re found out, we look worse than we would have by telling the truth.

Lying is an addiction like drug. When you become used to lying, you start breathing lies. It comes out without you even realizing that you are lying. With time it grows like a cancer cell and you even start lying to yourself like your own cell destroying your own body.

So what do you want your relationship to be built upon? Lies, those you speak in order to sound sweet? Or do you want relationships to be built with the bricks of commitment, honesty and integrity, regardless of the millions of flaws we may have? It’s up to you to decide.

It all boils down to this: It affects you and everyone around you. It hurts and destroys relationships. It can potentially destroy lives as well. Faith will shatter, relationships will crumble, people will refuse to trust you but the person that your lying affects the most is you.

Its time for us do some soul search, talk to our true selves and make a promise to never let lies have any part of our lives. Are you up for it?